I was given some good advice from my Grandmother, on the Dorset side of the family, who taught me to read an ordinary pack of playing cards when I was 10, just after my parents became 'happy-clappy' christian converts - she was a bit subversive like that
. I've updated the language slightly:
• When requesting guidance on a matter, ask once and once only. It is rude to keep asking and hoping for a different answer. Keep a journal, writing down your offerings and queries as they are given, and also your understanding of any perceived answers. Keep the journal safely; it will inform choices in the times to come and chart the deepening of your understanding.
• There are many futures and one past, for the future changes "with a penny found and a word spoke". The more precise the guidance, the shorter its ‘shelf-life’. Once given the knowledge, act promptly, wisely and decisively. If the counsel is to do nothing, ensure that is what happens.
• Before communing, write of everything. Describe the current situation and include all the factors, the people involved, what is at stake and the general importance of those factors to your life.
• Be aware of your present emotional state – be detached, calm and wise.
• Analyse the validity of your assumptions and instinctive thoughts – test and challenge them before committing to them.
• What would you do without guidance?
• What are your worries? These may be connected or unconnected with the situation you seek guidance for. How could these affect your understanding of the guidance?
• How might your current situation and mindset distort – by magnification or diminution – the guidance you are about to receive? Might you under or over react?
• Might it be better not to know and just to allow events ‘play out’? Sometimes, receiving patience, endurance and serenity can be a mighty gift.
Then compose your questions, use the practices to achieve the correct mindset and open yourself to receiving.
This is not
OBOD lore or mystery but I've always found it sound.