And to veer back to the original question, I have never felt stigmatized by anyone, pagan or otherwise, for my choice. In our grove we have mothers, fathers, and several who are childless by choice; if we have ritual at the home of a member who has kids, the other parents can bring their kids and they all play together. Occasionally a child will want to join us in a ritual and when that happens we are happy to have them join in. If the child is old enough to understand what's going on and we're doing a ritual where there's a part for the Mabon, the child will read that part. If not, the child just stands by their parent and participates as they can.
FWIW, I've been seeing the term "child-free" used a lot lately, which suggests that enough people embrace that state of being to choose a name that implies it is by choice. I kind of like it. Grist has run several articles on the topic that discuss the topic; here are links to a few of them:
http://grist.org/article/2010-03-30-gin ... -im-proud/
http://grist.org/childfree/2011-04-07-i ... ut-as-gay/
In that first link, the GINK* Manifesto, there is this introduction that nicely sums up my view of those who do have children, by choice or by chance:
*GINK = Green Inclinations, No KidsLet me get this out of the way up front: I like kids—many of them, anyway. Some of my best friends, as they say, are parents. I bear no ill will to procreators, past, present, and prospective. I claim no moral or ethical high ground.
If being a parent is something you’ve longed and planned for, or already embarked upon, I respect your choice and I wish you luck. Go forth and raise happy, healthy kids. May they bring you joy and fulfillment, and may they become productive members of society who faithfully pay their Social Security taxes.