My dear mom-in-law

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My dear mom-in-law

Postby ShadowCat » 22 Mar 2015, 06:30

My mother in law passed away, not able to overcome a severe pneumonia, last friday morning. The whole "newagey lifechanging eclipsethingy" has a bit of a weird feel for us now. After my man lost his father mere 13 months ago, the loss of mom tears at still raw wounds.

We have spent many a day helping my mom-in-law with both the practical things of daily life (groceries, going to doctors, ordering the right medicine etcetc) as well as the emotional process of being alone all of a sudden. I've learned more about her as a woman and what made her tick in this last year then in all the years before. She was strongminded, determined and fierce. Losing her independence was the greatest horror. The prospect of having to go to a nursinghome, not returning to her own house, was indigestable to her. She told me, when I last spoke to her: "I'd rather lay down my head and go. I'm not scared, I'm done." And so she did. We will miss her dearly...
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby ebhadh » 22 Mar 2015, 09:19

That is sad, ShadowCat, may she rest in peace in the Summerlands, reunited with her dear husband.

many blessings,
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby Fire oak » 22 Mar 2015, 11:48

So sorry for you loss Shadowcat. Thinking of you all x
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby Whitemane » 22 Mar 2015, 13:32

My heartfelt condolences, and I salute her courage and nobility. :candle:
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby ShadowCat » 23 Mar 2015, 07:18

Thank you all :hug:

Death has been all to prevalent in my life in these last years. Losing familymembers and friends...
It changes you to the core, both more deeply appreciating the simple beauty in everyday life and feeling deeper pain then I thought possible.
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby DaRC » 23 Mar 2015, 13:08

My heartfelt condolences to you and yours :hug:
The prospect of having to go to a nursinghome, not returning to her own house, was indigestable to her. She told me, when I last spoke to her: "I'd rather lay down my head and go. I'm not scared, I'm done." And so she did. We will miss her dearly...
It sounds like she was ready to go, in which case her passing was a blessing but none-the-less harder for the living she leaves behind.
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby Aphritha » 23 Mar 2015, 19:31

I'm sorry. :(


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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby gwendolyng » 23 Mar 2015, 19:48

The spirit knows when it is time to move on, though those around them may not be ready. May you be gentle with yourself (your hubbie, too) in the days ahead.
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Re: My dear mom-in-law

Postby ShadowCat » 27 Mar 2015, 08:48

We said our final goodbyes at the cremation ceremony yesterday. Even when I feel that she is deeply at peace (we all feel that, even my very selfdescribed nonspiritual brother in law) it's heartbreaking, to see people say goodbye. Her childhood girlfriend, elderly and wheelchairbound, being wheeled toward the coffin, to gently stroke it... so much love...

it brings tears to my eyes even typing this here...

Yet there is a strange, weird, beauty in all this. Stripping away the nonsense that doesn't really matter and leaving only a tribe of people, bound together in the love for a person gone...
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the callings of the universe

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